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Domestic
Abuse
There is Hope
A. There is hope
1. God does not want anyone to suffer in
this kind of situation
2.
Love is not pain
3. God can Change the heart of the abuser
if they indeed want to be changed.
People can
Change with the Help from God. and them
wanting to change. God can do amazing
things in peoples lives.. yet we need to
submit to him. and pray for him to change our
hearts and our lives. We want to be what God
wants us to be. A willing Vessel. wholly
submitted to him. We learn through our
mistakes...and yet we can use those mistakes
to help others.
God doesn't Let bad
things happen to us. yet because sin is in the
world. we will go through bad times, and God
can use those bad times to:
1. Show his own glory
on how he can indeed help us.
2. Manifest his power
and might to others.
3. Strengthen us. Teach
us.. mold us.. and even break us. when we are
not submitted to his will. and then. patch us
back up. better then new.
4. Lead us in other
directions.. I have seen many ministries that
help others...surface because of what others
have been through. Millions are saved,
and millions go on to help others because of
one persons trials and troubles.
Your suffering is not
in vain. Your suffering will comforted. and
you will rise up and be free. Then you
will be able to minister to others and only
because of the pain you endured can you
understand what others have gone through. and
help them to wake up to joy and happiness
again.
How
To Help others that suffer with Domestic Abuse
1. Be a unconditional
Friend.
2. Always Listen..
ALWAYS!!! Never say comments that puts down
the victim. build her up. those words of encouragement
will be the one of the only things to give her
the self esteem that she loses in the
situation to get out.
3. Offer her help
when she opens up. Have those numbers on hand
to Domestic Abuse hotlines. There are shelters
that will take her and her children in and
help legally. They will clothe, feed her and
help her get back on feet. DO NOT give her
those numbers, as you don't want the party
afflicting the abuse to find them.
4. Gain the abusers
trust if its possible. Kindness.. no matter
how you feel. Sometimes you can gain his trust
and get the extra foot in the door. But be
very careful.
Pray For that friend. always
hold her/him up in prayer.
It doesn't matter who
the person is, domestic abuse does not
discriminate. Anyone at any age can suffer
from this. There are now laws against this and
others can get help.
I hope these words
can help someone out there. I just want
others to have hope.. and to have the same help. and
the same freedom that I live in this very day.
The
Recovery
Now. the recovery for
everyone is different. as there are many forms
of abuse. Physical, Mental, financial, isolation. sexual,
the list can go on and on. Yet the most
important step in the recovery process is.. Forgiveness.
Now many say.. How can I forgive what he or
she did to me.. yet God forgave us.. He makes
it clear that if we cant forgive those that
hurt us.. he cant forgive us. How can this be
done?? Go to God in prayer...Tell him how you
cant forgive and ask him to change your heart.
Pray for that person
that has hurt you. I believe anyone can
change if they want to be changed, and ONLY
through the power of God.
Christian Counseling
is also a wonderful step.
Educate yourself.
Read all you can on the subject of Domestic
Abuse.
Reach out to others
that have and are in that situation.
Join a Bible Study. get
into the word of God. the word of God is the
best healing salve any one can use. He is not
just our father. but our comforter...our
healer and friend. I am nothing without him.
Talk About it!!!!!!
Get it out..
Know you are
fearfully and wonderfully made. Abusers only
tear the victim down to make themselves feel
better and take away the others self worth. so
they wont leave. God has made you special. you
are a Child of the king.. There is hope.
Help
is Just a Call Away
I am
not a professional, nor can I tell you what to
do if you are in a abusive relationship. What
I can do is give you the links to get help.
Every situation is different, yet leaves the
same scars in every person for years to come.
Below are links for you to contact and get
some help and make the decision of what to do.
I have spent time in a shelter for abused
women. It was not at all what I expected. All
the comfort of home. They do their best to
keep you safe, and will do what they can to
get you back on your feet. You are never alone
in places like these. Let me take you on a
journey to a place I found to be the nicest
place on earth.
When I
arrived, it was like a normal house. Secured
with alarms you would know who got in and who
got out. As I entered in, I was shown to my
room. All the comforts of home. Beds, dressers
and even all the clothes and books I could
read. They had a living room with a TV and
comfy couches for us to sit in and watch TV. I
was astounded at how much like home this place
was.
They
took me to a closet and told me to help myself
to clothes, shoes, and toiletries. The Kitchen
was like my kitchen at home. The pantry had
all kinds of things I could cook. They gave me
a supply of food with my name on it. This was
food for me and my family. They then showed me
the food I could help myself to.
I
found myself making tasty foods for everyone
there. I made cookies for the other ladies and
children. That delighted them, and made me
feel so good to bring happiness to other
people. (And helped me out of my own self
Pity)
My
stay in a place like this opened my eyes to
many things. There are good people that would
give anything to help someone like me.. and
you that is in a situation they feel that they
can not get out of.
If you
are in a situation of abuse, I urge you to
pray about what to do. Below are the links to
get help at. They will do everything in their
power to Keep you safe and protected. There is
help.. there is hope.
The
Links
National
Domestic Violence Hotline 1-800-799-SAFE
Prevent
Child Abuse
End
Child Abuse
Empowering
Women and Eliminating Racisim
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